Perceptions are funny. Let me rephrase that, people are funny. We live in a world where people jump to conclusions like they wrote the story and judge ever so freely without any real knowledge on the subject. Just assumptions. So, what we perceive, we believe, right? I mean.. I’m a firm believer in believing. Believe me. But I know it’s trickier than that. Perceptions are based off an idea. Note the difference between that and an observation; an observation is made through senses. Don’t get the two confused. Point is there’s more than what meets the eye, almost always. The problem is some of us choose ignorance, let things like fear take over, or think that we are way bigger than what we actually are. Why. Why do we allow perceptions to lead to judgment? Why judge based off assumptions, some of which we haven’t even made for ourselves? Why must we react with hate towards the unknown? Giving no chance of redemption against silent words. Why do we choose to burn the world we were loaned and take everyone down with us? Why do we choose to hide and follow negativity? Is it because of guilt? Because of boredom? Narcissism? Maybe it’s because we’re scared of being judged ourselves, or shunned if we choose against the majority. Or because we were raised on ignorance, so it must be acceptable, right? Just like we were taught as children that milk will make our bones strong and help us grow. Wrong. Lets get things straight, you have the right to your own opinion, but are you choosing to believe for the better good, or evil? " Your perception of me is a reflection of you; my reaction to you is an awareness of me " - Unknown Remember.. Your perception doesn’t make something really real. At the end of it all, your fact will always be someone else’s fiction. Your right is someone else’s wrong. Your yes is their no. Your truth, their lie. Judgment mirrors insecurity, vanity, and confusion. It's hard not to fall into temptation, living in this world we’ve created.. a monster, it seems. But I promise that the moment you let go of any negative thoughts you might be harboring before you lash out, you will feel incredibly free and so much more at peace. With others, yes, but most importantly.. with yourself. You will notice those thoughts will come and go and start to sparsely appear less and less as time passes. Hate is not and will not ever be the answer. Don’t let this twisted world’s perceptions become your dark reality. Rise above and choose to see the good before letting the bad take over. I promise you, there is an abundance of beauty and light beyond the unknown. " People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for " - To Kill A Mockingbird " More the knowledge, lesser the ego. Lesser the knowledge, more the ego " - Albert Einstein
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Some days are harder than others. Some days bitting our tongue isn't an option. So, we release. Gracefully, or not.. we let go. But how do you feel after? Do you feel better? Do you feel worse? Do you ever reflect on those feelings, wonder why you feel the way that you do?
You are the sole provider of your mind. What you feel is up to you. You can choose to let another energy take over, or you can learn how to be in charge of your own and limit what you allow to flow into your space. Don't feel bad for making a conscious effort to not let something or someone enter into your space without your permission. I know, it is not easy. To hold your own energy without another's interfering.. But it is essential to practice if you want to take control of your emotions, of your life. Letting go is a beautiful thing. It allows for new beginnings. If you don't let go, the weight will become too heavy to bare. You will then lash out and cause even more harm to yourself than you realize. Yes. I am firm believer in speaking my mind and honesty. But I also believe in the line, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Trust me, I am not perfect. I have a very difficult time following my own advice. Especially when I'm dealing with a painfully rude and ignorant individual. Yet, I still try because I know I am also hurting myself if I am trying to hurt another. That is why it is important to choose your company and your words wisely. You don't have to be friends with everyone, remember that. For a peaceful happy mind, quality eclipses quantity. Loss of any sort is not something any of us like to experience, but it’s what comes with life. It is natural, yes. But that doesn’t make it any easier to accept. We all deal with our emotions differently. I’ve been contemplating this a lot lately. I have personally never lost someone very close to me to death, yet. I understand one day this will happen. I have lost friends. I have lost family. I have been beside many friends, families, acquaintances and even strangers sides through their losses as well. And what always comes after is grief. “Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. It isn’t just death we have to grieve. It’s life. it’s loss. It’s change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad, the thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime. That’s how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can’t breathe, that’s how you survive. By remembering that, one day, somehow, impossibly, you wont feel this way. It wont hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty. The really crappy thing is that you can’t control it. The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes. And let it go when we can. The very worst part is that the minute you think you’re past it, it starts all over again. And always, every time, it takes your breath away. There are five stages of grief. They look different on all of us, but there are always five.. Denial. Anger. Bargaining. Depression. Acceptance.” -Shonda Rhimes I woke up this morning to yet another unfortunate text about someone who had lost a loved one, their pet to be exact. Instantly, I felt overwhelmed with emotions. Those of you who know me, know I have a soft spot for animals. And then, suddenly, my mind was flooding with memories of the loss I had experienced last year. At the time, I didn’t know when my pain would end. My depression took over me. How will I get through this? When will this heart wrenching feeling end? Will it ever end. These questions floated around me while I sulked in despair, feeling hopeless. Feeling pathetic to be feeling so much through a break up. Yes, a break up. I was embarrassed but the heartbreak was real. The loss was real. And it wasn’t until I started talking to people about it that made me realize I wasn’t crazy. I lost someone very dear to me. Were they still alive? That depends on how you look at it. Yes, they were breathing. But it was as if their soul vanished. Their heart, empty. A living, walking zombie. I was at my lowest point. I shut down. My family and friends were there, but I mentally wasn’t. I wanted to be alone. But I was never truly alone. I always had someone beside me. Through every moment I was lucky enough to have this one special someone through it all. That someone saved me; she became my collateral beauty. The crazy thing is, just a year prior to my loss, I had saved her life. Little did I know she was going to be saving mine. I didn’t know it then, but I needed her just as much as she needed me.. In 2015, while admiring the sunset in San Juan, Puerto Rico, there she was, this little helpless kitten. Her heartbeat was so strong, her cries so loud. The tiniest furry body I had ever seen. I felt an instant connection and I couldn’t walk away. I saved her life and a year later, she would be saving mine. She gave me a reason to push forward, to find acceptance in my heart for my peace. Peace for my mind. Peace for my body. Peace for my soul. I was hurting myself daily. Making myself sick. Driving myself up and down these tormented walls that I had felt trapped within. I thought I was going through it alone. But Aura, my rescued little fur baby loved on me every day and every night. Come December of 2016, I watched this movie in theatres called "Collateral Beauty". The basis of its story was that we can find beauty, even through loss. There it was. I was trenching through this sea of misery, trying to understand. Trying to let it go. Not realizing that Aura was my collateral beauty. She was all I had left from my break up. And all I needed from it too. I found myself again through the love I felt for her. And I will forever be grateful for that. No matter what, we will all go through it. Time is not promised. That must not stop us from loving or living. Because after every storm comes a rainbow. Over every hill, we can see the horizon. Life, loss, grief, love, happiness, growth.. let it be. There is an end to every story. Make each story count. Find the beauty in everything.
Welcome to SoulLyn! This was a project I have been putting off for some years now. I always knew I wanted to share with the world. Well, here it is.
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Yes, I know. I sound like every other yoga blogger. Every other "basic bitch" who wants to bend their way around the world and share all their "original" thoughts and images. I mean, I can't lie, it does sound appealing. Hey, maybe I do have something worth sharing. Something worth reading. Maybe I can be different than the rest. Maybe. Maybe I'll just let you decide. My goal within SoulLyn is to reach out and touch a soft spot within each individual who passes by.. The only way I know how; to be as real, as raw, and as personal as I can possibly be. So, I open my arms to you. Whoever you might be Enjoy |